I thought she "had it all!" Husband with a good career, she being a T, 2 kids, nice home, she being pretty and nice too. I was shocked when she got divorced!!!

Another shock was reading something she wrote about herself and her past. She experienced losses at an early age. She wrote about her anger. She used the "f" word in writing. I wasn't expecting that from her at all!!!

A pleasant surprise, though not preconceived, was her changing her mind about saying the words "I love you" to me, and signing emails "Love, T". I never expected that!!!