How am I playing the game? To be honest, you are the first person that has said this... out of like 40 on multiple forums. Plus, everybody that has seen us interact has said I am being consistent, but she is not.

I asked her out, she said no. I said we can be friends. Initially, I invite her to things as a group. I treated her like a friend. I said I enjoyed hanging out with a group, which was true at the time. Saying I enjoyed the group outings doesn't imply anything, especially with my timing and the context (you said no, but I am fine with being friends because I like hanging with the group). I am not alone with her. She was getting back with an ex, so I am not going to be alone and invited her to bring other people.

She, however, treats me as possessive. She eats my food, tells me where to apply for a job and just naturally in my space (which I know one of her coworkers even commented on, when she was around me just 3 days after I asked her out, got a no and she was all into my personal space). I try to discuss this, she cuts me off. Has never said anything about the ex around me and the group. She finds an excuse to stay behind or around me. I try to initiate another dialogue, nothing, she doesn't say. She never disclosed anything about the ex, regarding if she is still with him or not. She has had opportunity and I have brought it up. Shut out... In my mind, she was somebody else's girls. I don't play that game. I am fine with her going with the group on an outing, but I am not asking her to be alone, until we talk and she says she is available.

I am a single male. She is a female. To my knowledge, she is still getting back with this guy. She won't disclose if she is still in that situation or not, yet creates opportunities to be alone with me. So, I stop inviting her, she still goes.

The beginning friendship started with me doing all of the work. Asking her to things...trying to form a friendship first. I had some important family health issues, so I was out of town quite a bit... The typical Friday, Saturday thing was not an option for me and I had mentioned what was going on. Early on, I was not in a place to date, I was taking care of multiple sick family members, getting my mom's house ready to sell since she was no longer able to take care of herself. She never initiated the contact at the beginning. It was always me who had to get friends together.

After I asked her out and she said no, she did the things that somebody that was interested in me would likely do...seek me out... talk about me to my friends... There were things that she did not like to do that she only went to to see me. For example, trivia nights. She went once and hated it. I start going and it comes up that I go, she starts going too... the guy that asked her out and got a no. I go the restaurants and bars that I like, that she did not, she starts going on the days I am there that she knows I go. I made the move. Asked her out... Then, this happens. She won't talk to me, so I have no idea how to communicate with her to know what is going on.