Its good to put your thoughts down as it sort of organizes ones thinking & you can then go back & reread & rethink if its REALLY where yiu are TRULY at.

Honestly if I felt the way you do about him, I wouldnt even care about worrying about teying to keep his friendship....maybe acquaintsnce but wouldnt waste my energy on friendship either.

Ok...2 months, not really knowing if you even like the guy & sleeping together with that emotional ENTANGLEMENT....probably not thewisest thing as it sort of leads theother person on to thinking there is really an emotional connection there when in reality there seems like for you there never was.

I see a seriously dependent guy who would love to get you into a seriously messed up co-dependent relationship. Lol...Im way too independent...& have heard similar words come out of me. I made a huge mistake going from living with parents who were dysfunctional without my knowing it at the time to getting married to a totally dysfunctional guy not realizing thedysfunction becauseit matched that of my parents. We were the same age but young enough not to grasp that his emotional maturity was that of a child similar to my parents. I stupidly got married after knowing him 9 months getting talked out of listening to my red flags that hit me the month before the wedding & stupidly went through with it.

All those things you talked about in tour post are HUGE RED FLAGS to any kind of relationship....LISTEN TO THEM!!!!

After 33 years of staying married I finally left. The first months of being away (separated) I realized that I wasnt even thinking about him or missing him & that saying "absence makes the heart grow fonder" definitely didnt apply. As a matter of FACT I had NEVER felt more peaceful in all my life....realizing that the single life was REALLY the life for me along with farm living.

I think your heart & mind are BOTH telling you this guy isnt the one you want to spend your time with & time spent with him is more ofavwaste than a gain. Let the distance be your division & from previous experience you can honestly say that ling distance relationships just arent something you want to do & you feel there are just too many big differences betweenyou forvavrealvrelationship to ever grow out of it.

Im sureyou will gind a graceful way to back out of it without hurting or deviststing him & if hewas already saying "if things dont work out" sounds like he was sensing a possible lack ofbrelationship future anyway.