Truly, the one who decides if another is a friend is YOU. You have total freedom to decide how you accept another person in your life. That other person may respect you, feel that the friendship is strong or solid enough to criticize you about something, or love you to pieces.....but it doesn't mean they think like we do. If you find yourself questioning if somebody is your friend, you have to ask yourself if that person is giving you what you need in a friendship. Only you can answer that question.