Please,please stop listening to this word love, like it's the same thing you are feeling. It is being used as a leash to hold you in place while your wife spirals through her emotional crisis.

Why did she text you...that's easy.
The situation was out of her control and she wanted to lash out and knows you will take it. Her "friends " probably won't.
Your not her whipping boy, and if you want to maintain any sanity you need to stop attaching to this love word.
Since the beginning of time people have thrown that word around to get what they want. This is no difference.

" I love you.....we but here are all the things I can't stand about you, and all the ways you made me miserable."

Yet again avoiding any inclination to take responsibility for her own situation.
Everything she wrote there wE designed to be as painful as possible.
I suggested this may happen when you refused to play her games.
Well what I said is her reactions would tell.

You aren't leaving, like I suspected she wanted. So now she lashes out because your upsetting her plans.

Steel yourself,because I suspect it's going to get uglier than this.

Please take care. Protect yourself.