Hello Sleepless Knight: I'm sorry I don't know the answer to your concern. But I do believe it is a real concern. Yes, you may be a bit over sensitive. (I know I certainly am.) But I do also believe that the sorts of interpersonal dynamics you describe are real. I've experienced it myself & I've known other people who did as well.

Some people just seem to have an invisible sign on their backs that says: "Kick me." And so everyone does. (Perhaps it goes back to the kinds of pecking orders one sees in groups of other primates.) Unfortunately, I don't know what one can do about a situation like this other than seek new more agreeable friends. Either that or simply keep to oneself... which has been my preference. Perhaps other members, here on PC, will have better suggestions.

I see this is your first post here on PC. So... to PsychCentral… from the Skeezyks! May the time you spend here be of benefit.

PsychCentral is a great place to get information as well as support for mental health issues. The more you post, & reply to other members’ posts, the more a part of the community you will become. Plus there are social groups you can join & chat rooms where you’ll be able to connect with other PC members in real time (once your first 5 posts have been reviewed & approved.) Lots of great stuff! So please keep posting!