My Support Forums - View Single Post - My boyfriends a douche and making my problems worse

Misssy2 · Feb 17, 2017, 04:43 PM

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Originally Posted by mama pajama

I completely understand and you have my sympathy! I am in a very similar situation. Only it's my husband and he drinks alcohol within the first hour he wakes up till 1am. He is unemployed and will not work anyplace beneath him and I could go on. We have 6 year old triplets so that complicates throwing him out.

I would get him out of your place. You guys aren't married so no expensive messy divorce. He is not your sons father and your son is older so he would probably be extremely relieved if bf moved out. I bet the tension in the house is extremely high. Think about the $800 like a present for yourself and your son not for your bf. If you had dangerous black mold or a poisonous gas leaking in your house wouldn't you pay $800 to get rid of it for you and your sons health and peace of mind?

All this advice is correct.
But it is all making my anxiety worse.
Today I haven't moved from a chair, I am just not able to cope with this any of it...my sons feelings, b/f feelings..I can't even deal with my feelings...its horrible.

My b/f is waiting for a call from a job, not that him having a job will change much about how my son feels..but my son has a job and at least for him if it is that bad for him..he knows I have money to do a downpayment on an apartment to help him..he is 27 and I have to go thru MY STUFF in MY TIME.

The reason I posted was because I have no one I can be completely honest with this about and I know and my therapist says all that you guys say...but she knows too...its not my time to do it yet...I can't emotionally do much.