If I set up a deadline, then she will think I'm controlling and that's one of the issues she had with me in the first place. I'm just a rock in a hard spot now. I know I could file for divorce and end it, but will that really make me happy, No. I still love her with hopes she will let her guard down and let me in her life again. I know it's a gamble and she even said it will never be the same again. Maybe I'm just an idiot....I just don't know anymore.