I appreciate the people whom I consider close friends, because they are the ones I can confide with. Most of them are also people who confide, too. No aggression in those relationships, too.
I value listening, being there for someone in pain.
I value emotional tolerance and balance.
But those are selfless traits. That's a central problem for me.
My mother highly values kindness. My father has been learning it overtime, yet he still has anger issues, especially over small things.
Overtime, I've been feeling kindness is a weakness because it doesn't thrive you up, but just puts you as an emotional "punching bag" for everyone else, be it positive or negative.