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Originally Posted by DadFMF
Thank you for the comments. I agree with your opinions on the situation. It's hard to disconnect when you have kids. I get them almost everyday, so I have to see and deal with her. My son was crying to her last night, saying they wished we all lived together. She plain out told him "No". She told me to "stop giving them false hopes". I told her if she didn't plan on living with me anymore, why didn't you tell me this as an adult? She never responded back. All she can say to me when she does open up is everything I done wrong, how she found this sense of happiness and life again. I just don't understand why she just doesn't file for divorce. It would clear a whole lot of this up if that's how she really feels. I didn't want to initiate it, cause I'm not the one with all these problems. She's telling me she's not looking for or cheating on me. She said she gave me "numerous" chances and she fed up with everything. She will send me memes that say "When you hurt me, you force me to grow, when I out grow that hurt....I out grow you. True love is not suppose to hurt". And she sends other memes too. I know everything looks bleak. I just don't know how much time to give. I know she is going to school, working 2 jobs and taking care of the kids. She does hang out with friends sometimes. I just wish I could jump in her head to know what's going on. Me personally, I am starting to accept the fact that things are the way the are being separated but I just need to know where this is going before I give up and call it a day. Im trying to be as patient as a man can be but how much time is enough time???
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DadFMF, after 3 years of being hurled nasty insults without a clear plan to divorce on the part of my raging spouse, i discovered below.
Re: the first bold, above (
no plans to divorce) - I read on the internet about a reference to
crumbing. I have looked to find the 'medical' name with out success.
Essentially, many criss spouse throw
crumbs. The act of throwing their partners 'crumbs' to give impression that there is still some kind of relationship or connection (where there is none)
in case things go sour on outside.
As for time? Sorry to say, some take 2/3 years. 5 years, even 10 years ... or never!
Each person is different. Each set of circumstances is different re complexity.
This is the reason that it is PRUDENT to go on with your life.