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Old Feb 18, 2017, 05:22 AM
SilentMelodee SilentMelodee is offline
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Really, you gotta give it at least a good 24 hours.... people get busy, or people are out, or things happen (my therapist's internet was recently out). Please don't set your expectations too high, or you may get hurt by this therapist too. I never call my therapist. She has given me ideas on things to do when I'm not doing well. I think if one were to call "too much" or in crisis "too often," you could get cut off completely, and you don't want that. Meditate. Read. Go for a walk in nature. Write in a journal. Try your hand at painting, or something constructive. Immerse yourself in something productive, housework, laundry, cleaning your bedroom, garage, bathroom, anything. Or...something I find myself doing, and probably shouldn't, take a nap, get into TV, something. There are crisis lines if we are not doing well. People you can call and just talk to, vent to, if you don't have a friend or family member to talk to. Use that, try not to use your therapist. And especially, when you Email a therapist, don't expect a reply. Sure, you may usually get one, but don't expect it, or getting angry about it could get it taken away. Especially "retaliating" by canceling sessions. I hope you don't see this as harsh, believe me, I've learned from experience in the past. I have learned NOT to rely on my therapist outside of session times, unless there were a dire emergency, like a beloved family member dies, or you lose your job, or separating from a spouse, something like that. If you can train yourself to use other things than your therapist between sessions (even if they allow it), you may find you won't have any hard feelings with your therapist, or become too dependent on them. I kept up on what happened with your last one, and felt the pain and desperation, and I'm trying to help you not let that happen again. Move on from that other therapist, and concentrate on your therapist now. But not TOO much. I know I "feel" dependent on mine, but I am able to do these other things and not show it. I am sure, for a scheduling issue, you will eventually hear back from the office. Although I know you said it was your therapist you Emailed, and it is possible he doesn't yet have any openings for next week, and the delay in getting back to you could be because he is trying to adjust his schedule or see about cancellations so he can give you a better answer. Try to think of it like that. I just don't want to see you lose another therapist, and self-care makes them happy and can work wonders for you as well. Good luck.
Thanks for this!
LonesomeTonight