Thank you for all the responses! New t has been really great with trauma and I can really see how old t traumatised me by shouting at me and blaming me for rejecting her when I started to go into shock and disassociate. New t stays really quiet and hands me paper and says it's ok if there are no words. She asks me to look around the room and pick something to focus on if I can't make contact with her. She doesn't force me into making contact or staying in contact with her.