I actually replied to a post about my girlfriend feeling distant over the past few months since quitting her job because of the cruel environment and then undiagnosed BPD creating a perfect storm of pain for her. Since that time she has been unable to find work and has depended on me to pay for everything, which has brought her tremendous undue shame.

I've done my best to show her love with doing as much around the house as I can and getting her gifts that she needed. Now when she says she loves me I don't always know if I believe her.

One of the things she has said to me is that she doesn't even love herself right now. It hurts to hear her say that. And when I saw your post it made me want to read and respond.

Do you have that same feeling toward yourself?

It's a hard position to be in, and I wish you the best of luck.