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Originally Posted by Xynesthesia
I interviewed T's whose greeting style felt aversive for a variety of reasons. It can be a good discussion topic but also I just felt I worked better with someone who naturally matched my style and preference for interaction. I also met Ts who appeared very intrusive, that was even worse. I know why I dislike intrusion already so I would not see one of them just to explore more.
I personally like better when people look at me with a friendly expression rather than indifferent but from Ts I prefer if it's a professional kind if friendliness and they do not pretend to be my friend or a relative.
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Yes, I take it as a given that a T should be friendly. I think I just preferred the neutral, happy-to-see-you, kind of expression to the sympathy one. I'm not sure if the sympathetic greeting is a sign of intrusiveness...
I guess I find your first sentence to be at odds with what you say later - in that yes, it it could be raised for discussion (especially if it might be projection) but as you later say, it may be better to just take it as a sign of incompatible personality styles. I guess that's my dilemma!