I think I wanted to work with someone compatible rather than dissecting why I experience intense aversion with someone who was aversive from start. But aversion/ personality clashes and analyzing all that became quite core part of what I did with my first T. It wasn't present for many months and unfolded gradually. I found it interesting and the lessons useful but in the end it interfered with therapy for me because I lost respect and trust for him and we just triggered each-other in many ways. I did often find that T patronizing and self centered, also because he sometimes talked to me as though I was a child or some kind of victim - those are things I do not identify with. Surely interesting why I refuse those. I did ask him about why he did many things and often told him when something irritated me (but also overlooked many). For a while, but then I left because I did not find the constant fighting helpful and it made my issues worse, not better.

Then I found someone who was a better natural fit and then those perceptions never entered the interactions. There were certainly things in my first T's behavior and approach that triggered and irritated me in specific ways and I grasped on them after a while.

I guess an expression of sympathy without even knowing much or anything can seem and feel fake, and I imagine it is often fake in Ts behavior. Probably they try it too hard and it shows. I usually did not like when my first T tried to mirror me or identify with me because it was more than obvious we were more different in personality than alike. With second T, his relating and sympathy was welcomed, probably in part because it was clearly supported by factual evidence that he did get me and the way I work, not just tried to mimic understanding superficially.

I would think it's probably good to address it if it bothers you repeatedly and you decide to work with that T longer term.