Angela,

I second what wants2 said when she alluded to the fact that he was the one who kept the emotional distance. In saying that, though, I'm not saying that you as a survivor, aren't keeping up some pretty high protective barriors. It's so common for a survivor to do.

You'll find someone when it's right for you. I firmly believe that. You have alot to offer the right person...emtionally too. My husband was able to break through my barriors (in the beginning I had full control and allowed him to somewhat) to the real me. Honey, believe me, if I can find someone that loves and tries to understand me, you can too!

When you're ready, you'll see him and that will be that.

As always, I wish you well.

kimmydawn