The other day, I blurted out through tears, "T, I just want you to tell me what to do!!!" I wish that T would tell me what to do sometimes, but she NEVER does. I asked her to keep me accountable to some work projects and she won't do that either. She said that I'm welcome to tell her what my goals are and then give her updates but she refuses to initiate conversation on anything, claiming that I need to drive the conversation not her. So, I'm frustrated but on the other side of what you're experiencing. Good luck!