My long term T was in his 50s when I started seeing him and had shoulder length hair. I'v shown people a picture of him and some say he looks more like a musician. He had very wide ranging interests from art to music to literature, as well as science, etc. At some point I got the wild idea that he might be interested in BDSM! After some discussions on sexuality I came to realize this was pretty unlikely. I also thought at the beginning that he would have experimented with drugs - at least when he was younger. Turned out he had never even smoked a joint!