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Originally Posted by LonesomeTonight
A T is not the same as your parent. It might feel that way at times. But your T is there to support you. Not to be, like, parent of the year or something. Your T should be there for you no matter what (ideally, your parent should be, too, but that's not how it always works, unfortunately--I know from my own personal experience). But your T shouldn't judge you or feel disappointed in you. Your T should just want to help. So please share with your T...
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You're right, of course they aren't supposed to be a parent. It's just a connection I realised yesterday (to be honest, I was more asleep than awake, probably wouldn't have shared it otherwise...). I'm glad your T/MC reacted that well.
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Originally Posted by thesnowqueen
The whole point of these kinds of 'promises' is to assist you in stopping a destructive behavior. There really is NO other purpose to them. I know that having made such a pact with a T is one of the factors that assists me in abstaining from SH. However, if T is pushing this to a level which is totally unrealistic then I think its going to exacerbate the situation. Feeling bad because you have let him down - or feeling like you need to keep info from him - is only going to make the situation worse. Could you change the promise to that you will message him first if you are going to self harm? Rather than that you won't self-harm? Perhaps you could also discuss what it would mean if you were not able to keep your promise. What would it mean for the relationship?
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Discussing what happens if I break the promise sounds like a great idea, I haven't thought of that. This way I could bring up the topic and it'd probably ease my anxiety around it...
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Originally Posted by captgut
Well, I was giving you all these "wise advice"... But I just SI-ed again, and I m afraid to tell my T lol
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Hugs... Sorry if I triggered anything, wasn't the idea