Neither my T nor pdoc tell me what to do. If they did, I'd fire them right away.

This is just my opinion, but if a mental health "professional" tells someone what they need to do, then they're not being helpful in any respect. They're not your mother. They're not anyone's mother. They're supposed to help you cope with stressors, lend you a listening ear, teach you techniques, etc.. What's the point in hiring someone to be your mother?