i can totally relate to that. T said some pretty hurtful things to me too but all we talked about was why i felt hurt by it, and she never apologized. the closest thing to an apology was when she said i have a right to feel that way.... i don't know why they don't apologize, i mean they are human too so they do wrong things....maybe most of the hurtful things are about our own insecurities though, i'm not sure.