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Originally Posted by bluebicycle
I really like my new T. She is better than my previous two T's because she seems more compassionate, understanding, seasoned, etc.. I feel I can be more open with her than with my previous two T's. She also specializes in bipolar and ADHD, which is amazing because my previous two T's pretty much knew nothing about bipolar or ADHD (and therefore they frustrated me to no end).
Because she's such a perfect fit, I'm afraid I'm going to get too attached to her. Not in a sexual/romantic way (because I am a straight female), but on a "I need you here with me" kind of attachment. Like too dependent, I guess. I don't want to get upset when she goes on vacation, or get upset when I can't see her for a while. Or even get upset in the event she decides to leave the practice (which I hope won't happen, but my first T left unexpectedly, so anything can happen).
What have you guys done to mitigate this "dependency"?
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What do you consider "too dependent?" We all need to depend on others to varying degrees or we wouldn't survive. Straight females can become attached to female Ts as they would male Ts, so don't freak if that happens. I've come to the conclusion about myself, that not wanting to become "too dependent" is simply my embarrassment of needing to be dependent on another person at my age (adult). Now that I'm past that, I enjoy feeling close to my T, which is a feeling I've never had. Perhaps you could try to reframe your fear of attachment/dependency as something you shouldn't or don't want to feel...?