Oliver, if he doesn't know how to help you then he won't, hun. You truly need a therapist who really understands complex trauma. we too have had extensive complex traumas throughout childhood and working with people from these backgrounds really is just so very, very complex that is requires a specialist approach. there are so many triggers and multiple attachment issues going on that it takes someone with a really solid understanding of those issues to not do harm. i really want to highlight that last part, because a therapist who doesn't get the severity of complex developmental traumas will not understand the neurology, the intricate defenses, or the danger signs of working with people from these backgrounds.

I hear you say you can't find another T. I still say 'find a way'.
Like you I got out as soon as I could and got myself into therapy. Its now like 3 years later and I have only just discovered the benefit of a therapist who understands developmental trauma. I urge you to find a similar therapist as soon as you are able. It may not be 'now'. But when you can, okay?