I can seriously relate to you even though I am a much older generation. My parents were lower middle class or maybe upper lower class but they had no friends & werent truly accepted anywhere though I think my Dad's arguing about things he knew nothing about was a huge part of that....just something I have only realized a few years ago long after they both have died. They were white...German /Irish background. I was so determined that their issues were their lack of education & I wanted to be NOTHING LIKE THEM so I was determined to get my BS & ended up with a career in computer design engineering started back before PC's were even built..started my career in the late 70's.

Its interesting you should comment how you feel being part Asian will never let you into their same class because even with my growing up in the 50's & 60's the Asians were always equal & NEVER treated any different in Calif. where I was born & raised. No idea how other parts of the country were. The asians I worked in my career with we were ALL one team. No one looked at nationality or anything we just ALL worked together as one unit.

Im not sure if youhave actually been treated differently because of yoyr nationality or if its something yiu perceive is happening but in reality may not happen.

I know what it is to work hard to be accepted. The interesting thing, after my career collapsed I moved to a whole different area of the country where I have finally been accepted for who I am, not WHAT I am, what I can do. It has been the most amazing feel to be accepted in the small community for just being ME.....

Just remember to be yourself & let people know that YOU & you will be accepted. No one I kniw looks at nationality these days from my personal experience & in our little community we have many different nationalities that are all treated & accepted as equal