You ARE the only one that has said this though. I am done with her. I won't contact her. I won't reply to her. I won't even be in the same room with her anymore. I have not invited her to anything in a month and a half.

I think you may be confused as to what I am saying. Yeah, I wanted (past tense) to be friends with her. Not anymore. Things change... It does not mean you are playing a game. At first, I thought she was just nervous and needed time. I now see a more malicious set of behavior from her. I did not know how to communicate with her, because she would not communicate. I was trying to, but she won't, so I am done...Which again, is why I do not invite her to things anymore. I don't want her around. I no longer want to hang out with her. I no longer find her enjoyable to be around. I no longer want to communicate with her.

She knows where I am and what I do, because when we were friends, that stuff comes up. She knows what bar I go to to watch games on Thursdays. She knows that I go to trivia on Tuesdays, because we talked about this when we were friends. I should not have to give up my routine, because of her. She does not like this stuff and did not have interest in it, so it is purely because of me. This is not a large city, so there are not really many other options for me. I have not invited her to anything for a month and a half, so she emails me about "work"...again, with my job I cannot just ignore that email. I ignore her and magically she wants to hang out with my friends. Not much I can do with that. I called her out at the beginning of January, told her she was sending conflicting messages and not treating me like a friend. But, she was going back and forth of whether she want to be friends or not. She says no, but then she started acting possessive of me and got into my personal space, and tried to get my attention. I tried to talk to her and see if I could salvage a friendship. She got weird, so, as a result, I don't want to even be friends with her. It is all just too odd. The coworkers and friends that have been with us have pointed this out. The way most people describe it is when a teenage girl likes somebody and gets defensive when somebody asks her about it. They had said, that when she was around, her attention was on me and acted sort of like a teenager when that teenager likes somebody. The only difference is that she is 27. She also knows where I will be at work, because this is public information. I can't hide this information. If I am part of an organization, she sees this information. So, that is how she is behaving. The only way this ends is by me ending it, which I am trying to.

I don't care about being kinder to her. I want to make sure I am safe and she is gone. That means, do not all of a sudden start wanting to hang out with my friends that she did not want to before. Almost all of my friends/coworkers do not like her...They never did and said she is not trustworthy, so I am good with them not inviting her to things. It also doesn't mean start trying to hang out with my (immature) coworker at lunch that she had stated in the past that she strongly disliked and would not hang out with under any circumstances (which apparently means until she is the last one left that will talk to her). That coworker of mine is the only one that talks to her and will be around her. This coworker also is the type to keep things going and stirred up. Which, is ironic, because this female has trashed her repeatedly and I defended her. But, now she is trying to get together with this coworker.. I can't stop that, because I have no control. But, it puts her back in my setting without me having a chance to block it. It may end up resulting in me losing a friend with this coworker too, if she keeps trying to invite her to stuff.