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At least with the T my dd is seeing, she has grown dd's of her own. I do think the T has developed a fondness in my dd. I question whether that fondness is fulfilling a need in the T, as in she is once again having the chance to revisit the teen years, and fulfill parental roles she may miss now that her dd's are grown.

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I'd be very surprised if your daughter's therapist didn't become fond of her. I suspect most all therapists are fond of their clients (or most of them anyway!). And I'm sure many of them do enjoy their work and the roles they play in their client's lives. And yes, the client is vulnerable and the therapist holds the power in the relationship. But these things don't stop therapy from being helpful! Actually if the therapist didn't have power in that relationship, I think it'd be harder for them to help. To me, it doesn't feel like friendship because it's not give & take (like in friendship), but it's a powerful mentoring relationship.

But anyway, I'm rambling. Just wanted to say that even if the therapist really enjoys your daughter's company it wouldn't prevent her from helping your daughter. I'll jump in with everyone else who suggests the direct approach. Just ask your daughter if it's helpful! And see if you can talk some with her about it.

I think it's great that you're helping your daughter so much! But therapy is intense, and I'm not surprised a teenager wouldn't talk about it. Silence about therapy doesn't mean much though. Most everyone keeps quiet about therapy!

I don't think I made any points in this response, but I'm thinking about your thread so wanted to respond.

Sidony