Okie...sweetie! I don't know you very well, but I've appreciated your responses to some of my problems.
You always sound so strong, I'm surprised you are feeling this dilemma! I certainly can't cast any judgment on you for your attraction to this man, as I have corresponded with my old married high school sweetheart for almost 10 years, though never acted on any impulses.
I think you would do yourself a favor to refrain from acting on your attraction to this man. He needs to get himself divorced if he is so unhappy!
Patty