Dear Nocluey,

Welcome to my world. Exact same thing happened to me last September after 41 years of marriage. No answer why and no interest in working together on this. I pretty much drank my way through the first 2 months, calling friends and family on the phone, in misery.

I reached out and got tons of support. Went to live briefly with family far away. Got through Thanksgiving and Christmas.

Now I'm starting to feel alive again. Never thought I would be the happy, joyous person I had been again. But I'm getting there, slowly but surely. Main motivation two-fold: I know this will help me heal some earlier childhood rejection and betrayal that needed healing, and I want my two adult children to see me as someone who took the ultimate blow and got through it to thrive once again.

This is the most difficult thing I've ever been through, but I will survive and thrive. There is tons of information on this site about the baby steps you can take in the beginning (see Erebos post on this).

You are not alone. Your fellow traveler on this path,

Grandessa