Wow, I never had anxiety and hypomania until my kids had grown up. Both of these illnesses can imitate adhd. I soooo feel for you, I get angry and irritated if I even drop a spoon on the floor! It must be so difficult not to be able to enjoy your childrens growing years. Are you seeking therapy or on any sedatives to help you get through? My heart is bleeding for you. Don't feel selfish if you have an opportunity to take a breather every now and then...I realize you may have very few chances to do so when kids are that young. Let them zone out on the tv if you can, don't feel guilty... It's so sad when 'norms' can't understand that our issues are real...