Hi EV, I think since you sent your concerns to your T in an email, you might not receive a written apology back right away. I bet your T would want to talk about this in person so she can better understand what went wrong. If she sees she did wrong, I would hope that she would be able to apologize. It is so hard when our T doesn't understand us.

I can't think of a time my T apologized to me. The closest was when I got angry at him for a past session that didn't go well. And we talked about that and he explained from his point of view what had happened and I explained from my point of view what had happened, and together we made sense of it all. But neither of us said "I'm sorry." We just came to appreciate better what had happened. There was one time I did apologize to my T for something, and he took it very seriously. He did say at one point that I didn't have to apologize because that sort of thing happened in therapy, but he also said he wanted to honor my apology and he let me make my apology and said thank you and that he accepted it with his heart. The fact that he was so honoring, makes me think he would apologize to me if the situation called for it.