I'm wondering how other people work with Anger in therapy. I have a hard time with it. I don't like to show it in front of people I care about.

Last session we worked on Anger at the Abuser stuff Gestalt style. It's so hard for me to 'get angry' at an empty chair. I understand the exercise intellectually but a big part of the block for me is the fact that this huge warm comforting presence is in the room with me and it's hard to stir up those feelings and be angry while sitting next to her (Therapist). I also have some shame around anger. It feels like losing control. It feels wrong. And to show that in front of someone I care about, who's impression of me is important - that I need validation from — is a scary idea. I keep hearing Bruce Banner's voice in my head, 'you wouldn't like me when I'm angry...'

Meanwhile, my T is trying to show anger for me, speak up for me, which I appreciated but she's so ... um, well, let's just say it's too adorable because she's kinda 'performing' and it just doesn't really help me get angry but it feels supportive.

Nonetheless, I at least spoke and expelled the negative thoughts back at the person who said them to me. I can grasp the expulsion and disowning the shame and all that crappy stuff. Those words are not mine. They do not belong to me. I will not carry them anymore.

I feel like that's progress.

How does your Therapist work with Anger?