OkieDokie,

My advice is the same as the others, I would not trust a man that is bad mouthing his wife. If he really feels that way he should get a divorce.

You cannot control who you're attracted to. You sound bright and level headed, I'm glad that you are not falling for those lines, they are the oldest in the book I think. The only one I did not hear is "we're staying together for the kids". Don't let yourself be played.

I would have a hard time remaining friendly with a person with so little integrity. I'm curious as to what he said when you told him if he could not say anything nice, then don't say anything at all.