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Old Feb 21, 2017, 08:43 PM
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Originally Posted by thesnowqueen View Post
Budfox posted this article on another thread and I thought it may be relevant here too:

http://www.billcloke.com/writing-sam...s/#development

In my own personal case I know that when I start to doubt whether my idealized other cares about me, it actually does begin with a flash of shame. Suppose an email was not answered, or something that I believed I was entitled to was not given, or I simply remember something that wasn't done that I believe should have been done: I actually feel shame. The feeling of shame is accompanied by this thought: He did not consider me important/worthy enough to do it.' And really I have been (as the article says) fairly unconscious of the way this shame translates immediately to rage. In any case - I thought others here might find this relevant.
I don't call it shame, but I often feel ",if I were important enough, you would tell me." In regards to T and others in my life too. I haven't read the article yet, but thank you.
Thanks for this!
thesnowqueen