Not to sound harsh, but you did say you picked! The very same just happened to my husband and I A woman at his work who all of a sudden, is his best friend, and the next thing I know, they are holding hands at a party, which is way out of line for him. I am a very firm believer that we stay away from these situations, just talk business only to him and leave his marriage intact on your part. I work, too, but I would not let anyone get in the way of my marriage. I was very hurt , and am still working it out. It is both parties fault when these things happen. We all know that those subtle messages get sent out to attract. Good that you see it, but for his marriage and his wife, cool it !!