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Originally Posted by lolagrace
We see this in some students we teach. They have survived some pretty difficult background, but they have no real sense of basic social skills, give and take of conversation and interaction, how to communicate effectively with anyone outside of their immediate peer group, etc. Often we see them as having only one voice register/communication approach, so when their approach isn't working for them, they often don't understand why.
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I didn't really understand it as having this meaning, but perhaps it does. I used to teach as well. We would often see these kinds of things - not understanding turn taking in conversation, not being able to adapt register or respond appropriately to another person - among children who were somewhere on the autistic spectrum.
I understood it more to mean, having excellent social skills on the surface of things, being able to handle yourself very well and deal with everything well as far as anyone can see. But never actually allowing anyone to get close, never having any close relationships. Also avoiding some social situations because of a lot of anxiety, which other people generally didn't know about because it was mostly hidden anxiety. That's how it was for me anyway.