I was aggravated by his behavior but felt like if I complained he would turn everything I said around--ie find things I say just prove how crazy I am. So while in this state of mind, I said nothing but an hour later rerouted one of my payments (going to me--it is not his earnings) to my personal account rather than our joint account. I am sure I will change the payment back to going to our joint account again next month. I feel like he has total power over my life sometimes and, to me, having my own money is a sort of power. Until my attempt, I have always tried to work because I just needed to for the sake of my self-esteem....