Also, if he was more relaxed about stuff maybe you would feel less inclined to keep secrets from him. I don't know if it's the same for you but I am stubborn and kind of rebellious. If someone tells me I can't do something it makes me want to do it even more. But then I'd be secretive about it so I wouldn't get caught out. So if I have more freedom I'm actually more likely to behave better and not do those negative things because no one has told me not to. Don't know if that makes sense...