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Originally Posted by BudFox
My therapist urged me to think along these lines when we ended. I certainly tried. But the truth was that the ending blew everything else that happened into outer space. Becoming dependent and then stopping abruptly is no small thing. If the ending leaves the client in acute distress or feeling worse than before, I don't think you can consider that a success. It violates first do no harm. We live in a culture where everyone is supposed to put a happy face on everything, rather than being honest and real. Especially in therapy. If something causes suffering, it's ok to just say so.
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It sounds like you would benefit from working your termination out with another therapist.
I'm not putting a happy face on everything, btw, and I resent that you would dismiss the hard work I've done by using the time and energy I put into those 6 years of therapy to the best of my ability. It didn't happen overnight; I was extremely traumatized by the very sudden termination of my 6-year relationship with my therapist. It was a VA situation; I had received the therapy free of charge, but knowing, too, that my therapist could be transferred at any time. I considered myself fortunate to have had the full 6 years. As soon as I could, I chose survival by putting what I'd gained in therapy to good use.