Neither my h or I monitor each other.

We ask each other how was our day. I assume we both are truthful.

I see nothing wrong with you having some of your own money in a separate account. If he ever went to divorce you, you would have a cushion.

Honestly, I regret being as honest as I have been with my h. I didn't have to tell him about my past, or about talking with every ex bf. I was stupid to even say it.

It didn't help us. I'm so messed up.