<<Hugs>> I think both of us ask ourselves a lot "What is wrong with me?" I just starting asking seriously after my attempt. I don't know when you started (possibly when you joined PC?) That question bothers me a lot sometimes. Maybe the question becomes counterproductive at some point. We both understand a lot more. Now can we both just get on with our lives? I hope we can.

Concerning honesty, I think my relationship with my mom taught me that it could definitely backfire on me sometimes. Sometimes asking meant suffering a reaction I didn't welcome. I think she also subtly taught that in some situations it is more important to be ladylike and indirect verses honest and direct. I can't help but think of the Jack Nickolson quote, "You can't handle the truth." And bosses that want to do things their way regardless of all the problems it causes--selfish bosses do not want to hear the truth. When my H talked to me about his concerns this morning, he was sort of upset. Frankly, many of my instincts about hiding stuff are for the best. I bet I would be on more medications than I want to be if I told every psychologist everything!