Hi Illyrio, and welcome aboard. You will find lots here pursue it! I am relatively new as well. I had posted something along the lines of your relationship issues earlier, but I cannot address the medication issues as I come from the Non ADD side of the relationship. I will say this, again no expert, the medications can sometimes cause ill effects with emotional controls. If you value your relationship I would look into it seriously. Research ADHD and DESR or have your medical care team look at it for you.
I have experienced the seemingly "higher self confidence" from the other side, combined with the anger/emotional upset....it cost us a beautiful relationship.

This link is from Psych Central

https://psychcentral.com/blog/archiv...rried-to-adhd/

Best to you