Artchic: You are very right. This is why I'm choosing to stay single for at least a year. It's not fair to a man who actually *likes* sex to ask him to wait for so long, that would make ME the selfish one. So I just don't wanna bother trying for a while.

And I know making kids requires sex LOL. But I don't want kids until I find a good man that I actually want kids with, and hopefully he and I can figure out how to make sex less scary for me (with the help of a good therapist of course). Believe it or not, I WANT a fulfilling sex life. But I haven't found a way to make it enjoyable yet, and I'm not ready for kids yet anyway, so really that's a moot point to bring up right now.

Eventually I'll find a professional who can help me work through my trauma. If I find the "right guy" (if that even exists), he'll be patient and want me to initiate sex when I want it, not when I just want him to STFU and stop bringing it up.

No sex might be "lackluster" or "stale" to some men, but I have other fun qualities. I'd like a partner to take with me while I travel, try skydiving, become SCUBA certified, etc. After enough time has passed and I trust him, I might just start liking sex. I don't really know for sure.

If that doesn't happen, I'll stay single until I'm 80, and die alone and unmarried without having kids. I don't NEED a man to make my life worthwhile. If some crazy guy WANTS all this baggage? Well he's welcome to tag along until I'm either comfortable with him, or decide he's driving me crazy.

No woman NEEDS a man (or ANYONE) to live a full life.