Yes, the first thing you have to ask yourself is what is it about the situation that is causing them to act this way? This can be terribly upsetting to us making us more self-conscious but I think it is a necessary evaluation to make.

As mentioned above, your choice will depend on the nature of the relationship you have with these people and what kind of interraction you may have to have to follow.

I am very self-conscious and am one to take things quite personally. I think I jump to conclusions that people are being rude or even mad at me. My CBT is teaching me to challenge these thoughts and to, yes, put myself in the other person's shoes.

So how to handle this. Yes, although extremely hard to do, you should speak up and tell the people you have had your feelings hurt. It is even fair to ask if they intended to do so. Just last night I got laughed at by a large group of people (I wear a safety vest at night when I must walk somewhere). I told them they were hurting my feelings and that they were out of line. It really scared me to do so but it stopped them in their tracks and most apologised.

On the otherhand if you don't have to deal with them again. Hold your head up high and move right along.