Cherry, lola was not placing any judgment on your worth. You asked if you were in the wrong. You committed tax fraud, so yes, you were in the wrong.

That doesn't mean you are a bad person or don't deserve to live. I have read a number of your posts now after our chat last night, and it's clear you are an individual who is in pain and hurting. We can offer a certain amount of support here, but I really urge you to seek out some resources in your area. I know you said you can't afford a therapist, but try looking into a local women's group or free mental health resources or even a church group. I don't want to push religion, but I know pastors and their wives often do counseling that can be helpful. At least you would have someone to talk to and help give you a new perspective.

Right now it seems you are very caught up in what has been done to you and what is happening to you, and not aware of how it is affecting your children, especially your oldest daughter, whom it appears you are on the verge of losing your relationship with. You obviously love her very much and don't want to lose the relationship, but you have to remember, she's your daughter, not your husband, not your sister, not your mother, not your friend. She's not responsible for your emotional needs or your financial needs. She is trying to put boundaries in place to keep your relationship as her mother safe, not to sabotage it.

Really, these issues need to be dealt with between you and your ex, and your daughter and other children need to be left out of it entirely.

Again, making a mistake doesn't make you a bad person, it just means you have room to learn and grow.

Seesaw