Your dad is not the one who should be paying for you to live on your own or pursued your career interests. That is a responsibility you have to take on yourself. Your dad isn't standing in the way of your independence. Him giving you more money would actually be making you more dependent on him, not independent. I know it's hard, but you have to take responsibility for yourself. We all know that you're smart and you have talents; you just have to figure out how you want to apply them.

It also sounds like you're confusing "the chase" or "game playing" with a lack of interest or connection. If a guy stops communicating with you, it's not that they are waiting to be chased-- they've simply decided it's not a match and moved on. When a guy feels the connection and wants to pursue something, he will. Maybe it's worth considering whether your desire to move too fast has to do with feeling desperate. It's really hard to find the "right" person if you feel like anyone will do. You're not being picky enough and guys will sense that. If you really value yourself and what you bring to the table, that will come across.