Every yr I dread my birthday. It's just depressing & a depressing time of yr. I try very hard not to show how I feel.
Now I was raised that birthdays are just as big as Christmas as a kid....their YOUR day. Their a celebration. So for my kids & my SO I make a really big deal out of them.
Last wk was my birthday & ive been putting on a happy face, everything is great. My SO planned an evening for us to go out alone. That rarely happens.
That morning no one says anything to me. It's forgotten. Now this has happened for several yrs now. My SO does not tell our kids it's my birthday....& I feel hurt.
Do I sound like a whiner about now?
But there's nothing like little kids saying happy birthday & making a handmade card or just viewing their excitement & happiness. Those I cherish deeply. Every yr I hope...& get nothing.
I had a nice birthday.

So next yr should I tell my kids the day before that it's my special day? Should I ask them to make me card? Does that sound desperate that I'm looking to validation from my kids? Does this fall on my SO shoulders? Bec we have a similar circumstance when it comes to Mother's Day. He'll say, your not my mom.
I don't want my kids to see that I'm hurt. But there are traditions I'd like to keep. That birthdays are celebrations of life & special! My SO hates traditions.
Yeah you can tell me to stop feeling sorry for myself.
Thanks