Well, my last friendship ended when I unintentionally embarrassed her in a Victoria Secret's store.

You see, it all relates to back when I was doing group therapy, on a horse ranch of all places (something to do with using the horses in therapy I guess), some of the other girls got to talking about underwear one day. One of them said that they couldn't wear underwear with butts in them, only thongs. Something about the full underwear always riding up and causing wedgies so it's better to just have a permawedgie via a thong, I guess.

Anyways, fast forward a few years and I make a friend off the internet, we met up for some shopping at a mall, and she wanted to stop by the Victoria Secret's store. I wanted to make some light and casual banter, and had the mindset of wanting to help her shop, as I am a people pleaser in a way, so, looking back on the memory of that day in therapy where we all talked about underwear, I asked her if she wore thongs or the kind with butts in them.

Now, she was kind of prudish and conservative, and I honestly was completely unaware of how asking her about her underwear preference would be mortally embarrassing to her, or rather, how truly personal a question like that was in such a public setting, and I guess that really embarrassed her. I didn't get that until much later.

I guess I have no sense of discretion and just impulsively say what's on my mind. I never intentionally meant to embarrass her, nor knew that what I was doing was inappropriate. I have real trouble understanding that what may be appropriate for one situation, may not be appropriate for another similar, but different situation.

These kinds of situations happen every day and I'm completely unaware that what I am doing is inappropriate or embarrassing to others I'm with. Maybe my lack of knowing when to be discrete may be due to Aspergers. My mother thinks so. My cousin was formally diagnosed as an Aspie, and this runs deep in families and being that I'm a lot like him in behavior and social awkwardness, one can conclude I might be one too.