I'm also considering just changing my name professionally. Like some women actually change their name when they get married but keep their maiden name in their place of business, just on their business cards, etc., and are publicly known by their professional name, but legally have their family name.

I thought I might try that first, just like, using the name in email and on my business cards, but keep everything else in my full given name.

I would have to talk to HR, but I don't really see why it would be an issue for them. They would just have to adjust my email address and we'd have to order new business cards, but I would pay for that if necessary. Oh, and I'd have to order a new name tag for our work events, but that's so not a big deal.

I might float this with my one friend/colleague who is here, whom I trust, to see what she thinks of it.

I've known women whose legal names were a hyphenated of theirs and their husbands, but in their place of business they just used their maiden name.

Sometimes you can just set up a DBA in that instance (doing business as), which is pretty easy. I did before when I was running a personal consulting business.

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