i know exactly what you mean...in a way

everytime something happens with me my x's (at the time bf ) mother always seems to trump me and then point out how stupid i am.....i was sick one time, turned out to be a 2 week straight upset of IBS....i was 116 pounds from 130 ....and my bf was paying some attention to me...i couldnt eat or anything or i would get severe stomach pains and really sick....well his mother made a huge deal because she had a toothache and stayed home for like 4 days and then kept saying i was just trying to get out of work....im better now....but she is always doing that ...i started trying to go to school for RN...and then she signed up right away to be an LVN and for all that time she only kept saying about how she would be a better LVN than any RN ...whatever that means....so now i left my bf ...partly because of his mother ....unfortunatly you cant do the same....im sorry (((((((((((LMO))))))))

i hope you dont see this as a hijack to your thread...im just explaining i sorta know ...except yours is definitly more complicated ....if you do think its a hijack feel free to take it off ...not a problem.....