It sounds really hard, Clarity. We've been where you are right now, and it is very confusing and disorientating. Once when we moved cities we were still having some alters 'catch up' to the news 10 years later. 0_o (obviously ones who didn't come out much). It was very hard for many of us because lots did not want to leave where we were and did not want to be where we ended up.
I am sorry you are having such a hard time.